Then Love is like meeting someone during your morning commute.
You could both be heading in the same direction, maybe even on the same train, but maybe you just never make it onto the same cart. You could be close in some ways, but just never quite find each other. And there’s not a whole lot you can do about it. It just is what it is.
I’ve heard stories recently about people that met and initially didn’t click… then Life kind of brought them back together and things were different. Timing worked its mysterious magic and when brought back together, they fit. I know in my own experience, Time has made the difference between me not being into a guy at all versus me being all in.
I guess in those cases we started off on different trains, but we happened upon a connection point. A point where everything stops, just for a moment, swarms of people zig zag across platform floors, and you change direction. Those connection points literally changed the course of my relationships. How lucky we are to get to experience the possibility of connection points in life.
If I were to pull my analogy into the twenty first century and be a little depressing about dating these days, I’d say as hard as it was to find someone during your morning commute on a train, it’s even harder now - none of us are even taking public transit anymore. We’re taking Ubers and Lyfts - maaaaybe a pool, but more likely we’re flying solo. It’s fast, direct, and cheap, kind of like dating these days. But there is a cost. We miss so much: observing people, stupid delays that turn into unexpected thoughts or moments of creativity, humanity at its (first world) grumpiest and sweetest. Worst of all, when taking a car directly from point A to B, there are no connection points.
I hate to end things off on a depressing note, so hopefully the quotes below still inspire you.
All I can say is I think it’s time I start taking the bus.
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Giving Things a Chance vs Knowing When to Call it Quits
A solution to stalled, by Seth Godin
“When a project appears to be in limbo, in a permanent holding pattern, where sunk costs meet opportunity costs, where no one can figure out what to do…
Cancel it.
Cancel it with a week’s notice.
One of two things will happen:
A. A surge of support and innovation will arrive, and it won’t be stuck any more.
B. You’ll follow through and cancel it, and you won’t be stuck any more.
It costs focus and momentum to carry around the stalled. Let it go.
When David and Bill cancelled my brand-in-development in 1983 at Spinnaker, it ended up being the catalyst to turn it into our most successful launch. We ended up launching a line of five software products that were each certified a gold-selling hit.
That week wasn’t fun, but it changed my life.”
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“I believe in Love and in Trying and in Taking Chances.”
- Dot
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“Set your life on fire. Seek those who fan your flames.”
-Rumi
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“Words that come from the heart, enter the heart.”
- The Talmud